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Caregivers Support Group

The Caregivers Support Group meets on the second and fourth Sundays of each month after the 10:30 service in Room 202 of Curry Hall. 

There is no one type of caregiving. Some care for a spouse, parent, a child (young or adult), a grandchild, another loved one, or a friend. Some give care day to day in person; others do so long distance. Some are giving care for a short time during a specific illness or injury; others are in positions of long-term caregiving.

All are welcome no matter your circumstances.

We provide support for one another and a safe place to share our ups and downs. We have three simple rules: 

  1. Everything said is confidential.
  2. There is no judgment.
  3. All feelings are valid.

Join us, or reach out to Emily Phillips if you have questions. Email Emily Phillips

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From the Vestry Glad Tidings

Easter Thank You from the Vestry

What a busy and glorious Holy Week at Nativity! The Vestry would like to thank everyone who gave their time, talent, and heartfelt touches to each and every service.

Stephanie, Cathy, Phillip, and Jeremy delivered some amazing sermons, shared some great children’s homilies (and crafts), and presided over some beautiful baptisms!

Bradley provided some poignant music and inspired the choir to work their vocal cords overtime, resulting in lovely psalms, hymns, and especially Ye Choirs of New Jerusalem. Well done!

Throughout the week, various Nativity committees offered their services — the altar guild aided in the Maundy Thursday evening activity of foot washing, parishioners volunteered to read at the Stations of the Cross on Good Friday, many green thumbs and strong arms showed up to tidy up during the Buildings and Grounds workday on Saturday, and the Flower Guild outdid themselves with their creative arrangements for all to enjoy on Easter Sunday. And let’s not forget Viola and her youth helpers who spent time stuffing, hiding, and helping the younger kids find LOTS of Easter eggs!

We would love to name each and every one of you who helped with and/or participated in this past week’s activities, but you know who you are… You Are Nativity! And we thank you all.

— Church of the Nativity Vestry

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Glad Tidings Lent Q&A

Lent Q&A 2024: Week 1

Following the success of last year’s Episcopal 101 offering, we are holding a similar Q&A series this Lent, where you can ask all of your lingering questions regarding being an Episcopalian, our church practice, etc. To ask a question, fill out this Google Form, and you will receive a response via a blog post or short video. 

This week’s answer comes from Jeremy Clos, Lay Associate for Christian Formation.


Why do we sometimes drop the filioque from the Creed?

The Episcopal Church offers several forms for the celebration of the Holy Eucharist. At Nativity, we predominantly use the four forms for Rite II found within The Book of Common Prayer. Additionally, there are four “contemporary” language options in the supplemental materials called Enriching Our Worship, which are also authorized liturgies for Episcopal worship. While all versions in The Book of Common Prayer include a version of the Nicene Creed containing the filioque (or the phrase “and the Son” when describing the Holy Spirit), the forms for Holy Eucharist in Enriching Our Worship include a version of the Nicene Creed that omits the filioque. We used one of these forms from September through November last fall.

It might be surprising to learn that the clause “and the Son” was not present in the original form of the Nicene Creed, established at the First Council of Nicaea in 325 AD and further clarified at the First Council of Constantinople in 381 AD. The original Nicene Creed affirmed that the Holy Spirit proceeds from the Father (in Greek, “ek tou Patros ekporeuomenon”). However, in the Latin-speaking West, particularly in the Frankish territories, the phrase “and the Son” was later added to the Creed to combat Arianism (which challenged the full divinity of Christ) and to emphasize the full deity of all three persons within the Holy Trinity. While the filioque clause became widely accepted in the Western Church, the Eastern Orthodox Church did not accept this addition, maintaining the original form of the Creed as affirmed by the ecumenical councils.

The filioque controversy significantly contributed to the gradual estrangement between the Eastern and Western Churches, leading to the Great Schism of 1054, which resulted in the formal division between the Eastern Orthodox Church and the Roman Catholic Church. The controversy remains a point of contention and theological dialogue between the two traditions today, as efforts continue toward ecumenical reconciliation and understanding.

In the Episcopal Church, the decision to offer an authorized version of the Nicene Creed without the filioque clause reflects a commitment to ecumenical dialogue and understanding with Eastern Orthodox and other Christian traditions. By sometimes using the Nicene Creed without the filioque, The Episcopal Church seeks to promote unity and respect for diverse theological perspectives within the broader Christian community.

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Foyer Groups at Nativity

by Ailsa Tessier


We know it as Foyer at Nativity, but where did this name come from? We understand that the idea of foyer gatherings began after the bombing of Coventry Cathedral during World War II. The cathedral’s Provost made a commitment to not seek revenge, but to strive for forgiveness and reconciliation with those responsible. Out of that commitment came community meetings, where people worked together to find common ground. There is much more to the history, if you wish to know more. 

Many church communities have their own version of Foyer — they call it dinner group, or supper club, or something similar. Here’s how we do it at Nativity. Signing up means you’d be part of a group of about six people (adults only), assembled to try and mix new parishioners with others. You meet in each other’s homes about once a month for a three-month cycle. Each couple/single takes a turn at hosting a meal in the style of your own household. Each group decides how they’d like to get together — usually it’s in someone’s home, but many groups have met at a restaurant, or ordered takeout. We’ve been in Foyer groups where the dinner was appetizers and dessert; others have served pizza or soup, or ribs on the grill. The whole idea is simply to get together and get to know some of your fellow parishioners. 

It couldn’t be easier! Some of us have been in Foyer groups at Nativity for 30 years — it’s the best way to get to know your fellow parishioners and make new friends. Sign up, give it a try, and if you have any questions about Foyer, get in touch with me.

Email Ailsa Tessier

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Farewell from Cuyler O’Connor

Cuyler O’Connor was ordained to the Sacred Order of Deacons on January 27, 2024. With that ordination comes a move for Cuyler to a different parish, as he is called to serve where needed. This is a bittersweet moment for Nativity, as we celebrate his journey but also know that we will miss him. Cuyler shares the following note:

When I started this diaconal process, I never thought about the process of discernment. We all do it, but we may not realize it. Through discernment, I have found that to be a deacon truly is my calling, but it is not about “me” it is about “we.”  Many things remind me of the power of “we.” Certainly, for my spiritual formation, Nativity is a key element or building block around this discernment process. My spiritual director once told me, “Cuyler, there is always more,” and this is so true. There is always more in the relationships “we” develop, the community “we” serve, and how “we” love and embrace God. I will move to my next step in this journey. Things sometimes unfold where “we” see it was there all along. “We” are just flawed humans and do not notice, but that is the beauty and grace of it all.

In Japan there is a traditional method of breaking pottery and repairing the broken joints with gold or silver powder (urushi) and this method is called kintsugi. The pottery continues to be used and is quite stunning in appearance. I wonder if maybe “we” all must break ourselves to find something lovely and new.

My new placement and journey will be at La Iglesia El Buen Pastor in Durham. After discernment with the Bishops and meeting with Father Medina, this seems like a great fit.  I know it will come with challenges but Nativity has prepared me well.

I want to thank everyone at Nativity for all the times we have had together in fellowship and more importantly in the space of love from Jesus. If there is one thing I have learned going through this process, it is not to take myself so seriously, have a sense of humor, and let go. Whenever I tell people of my home church faith family I do it with a “robust” NATIVITY and a smile. I see Jesucristo (Jesus Chist) in all of you, thanks for raising me in such a loving community.

We are one in whom Christ dwells and delights. We live in the strong and unshakable kingdom of God. The kingdom is not in trouble, and neither are we.

Blessings my friends.

Love, 
Deacon Cuyler+

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A Response to the Pastoral Letter

by Chuck Till


The first Bishop of the newly formed Diocese of North Carolina, John Stark Ravenscroft – the namesake of Ravenscroft School in Raleigh – was an enslaver. After he became a member of the clergy, he emancipated many of his enslaved persons but not all. The second Bishop of the Diocese, Levi Stillman Ives, defended the institution of slavery even as he encouraged his white parishioners to attend to the spiritual needs of their enslaved persons. The original benefactor of Ravenscroft School, Josiah Watson, was a member of Christ Church in downtown Raleigh and owned a plantation of 10,000 acres in Wake and Johnston Counties. His plantation was staffed by at least 135 enslaved persons. 

I hope you are not surprised by these facts, which are not isolated instances. Far more than uncomfortable truths, they are an indication of how thoroughly the practice of slavery permeated this state. As the Rev. Dr. Brooks Graebner, the Historiographer of our Diocese, has written, “The colonial Anglican Church was identified with ruling elites, and the Episcopal Church continued to reflect economic and social privilege. In 1860, more than 50 percent of North Carolina’s largest slaveholders were Episcopalians, although in the state as a whole there were 50 times more Baptists and five times as many Presbyterians.”

At the time of the Civil War, our Diocese consisted of about 40 congregations. One-third of them, such as Christ Church, are in the current territory of our Diocese. The remaining churches are now in the Diocese of East Carolina or the Diocese of Western North Carolina. These church buildings and their operation were financed mainly by parishioners in the upper strata of southern society.  Where did their money come from? Particularly from Greensboro eastward to the coast, some were owners of large plantations that were financially and operationally dependent on the labor of enslaved persons. Many other parishioners were enriched by their direct dealings with enslavers: merchants, suppliers, shippers, etc.

In short, the footprints of slavery are all over our Diocese. Just like you should think of the consequences of colonialism every time you walk the beautiful streets of London or Paris, you should think of the consequences of slavery every time you enter one of our splendid older Episcopal churches. The brutal exploitation and repression of African-Americans in North Carolina did not end in 1865, of course. It continued almost unabated for decades – even within the church – and persists to this day.   

What does this mean to a comparatively new church like Nativity? Unlike some churches in the Diocese, there are no historic plaques or stained glass in our worship space to honor contributors whose wealth is tainted by slavery. Nor does Nativity have its own history of segregation to contend with. But we are not off the hook. In the immediate vicinity of Nativity in northwest Wake County, there are many indications of a large African-American population. The original Jeffrey’s Grove School on Creedmoor Road, since replaced, was built for African-American children during segregation. The Masonic lodge at the northwest corner of Strickland and Ray Roads is historically African-American. The Chavis family once owned much of the land along Ray Road south of Nativity (and still owns some of it).

Was Nativity’s 7 acres of land ever worked by enslaved persons? Was it a meeting site for the Ku Klux Klan? Is the start-up funding that Nativity received in its early years from other Episcopal churches in the area traceable to tainted sources? I don’t know the answers to these questions, but they are fair questions to pose. And even if the answers are no, we are part of a Diocese that has some awful history. This is the work that our Bishops have called us to continue in their recent pastoral letter.

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It’s Time to Vote!

by Bridget Knapp


Wait a minute! I thought the election wasn’t until November 5? Yes, but that’s the general election. There’s lots to do before then, like vote in the primary election on March 5, where we decide which candidates we should vote for in the general election. (Take a look at the election calendar).

In the primary election, eligible voters affiliated with any political party are allowed to vote for candidates on their party’s ballot. The deadline to register to vote is on February 9. To learn more about how to register online or in-person at the DMV or by mail, visit the NC State Board of Elections website. To see if you are registered and to view your sample ballot, use the Voter Search Tool. Make sure that your name, address, and party affiliation are correct. If not, you must update it by mail or online before February 9. Unlike in-person early voting, you must be registered to vote in order to vote in-person on Election Day. 

In-person early voting starts on February 15. You must show a photo ID to vote. Acceptable forms of photo ID (unexpired or expired for one year or less) include: 

  • a North Carolina driver’s license
  • a U.S. passport or U.S. passport card
  • a state ID from the DMV (also called a non-operator ID)
  • a North Carolina Voter Photo ID card (get it for free by visiting the NCBSE website)
  • a college or university student ID that has been approved by the State Board of Elections
  • an employee ID from a state or local government or charter school that has been approved by the State Board of Elections

Also, anyone who is 65 or older may use an expired photo ID if it was unexpired on their 65th birthday. More information is available on the NCBSE website.

If you have any questions, feel free to email me. Email Bridget Knapp

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Christmas Flowers 2023

by Ailsa Tessier


Our Flower Guild will be working on some new ideas to decorate the church for Christmas this year. Instead of purchasing ready-made garlands, we’d like to make our own from magnolia leaves. (After all, we’re in the South, and nothing is more Southern than magnolia!)

To that end, we ask that you let us know if you have a particular type of magnolia in your yard — we want to use the variety that has smaller leaves with the lovely velvety chocolate brown undersides. We will need a lot of these to make this project work, but with a bit of hands-on work we’ll save quite a bit of money. If we are able to source enough leaves and branches, we might do wreaths as well. We would be glad to come to your location and cut judiciously from your tree(s) during the week after Thanksgiving. If you have this type of magnolia available and are willing to donate it, we’d be most grateful. Please let Ailsa Tessier know if you can help. Email Ailsa Tessier

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Update: Not-so-silent Auction

by Beth Crow and Kara Malone


Church of the Nativity’s “Not-So-Silent Auction” and Soiree 

Over the last few years more and more individuals have shared how difficult it is for them to hear most of what goes on during our worship service because of hearing impairments. This new sound system will not only connect with hearing aids of congregants but will also cut down on much of the bulky equipment located throughout the sanctuary.

And so we came up with “Not-So-Silent Auction” and Soiree!

October 7 at 9 am: Individuals can begin bidding online some of the 130 items that have been donated. You can view these items now at 32auctions.com/COTN_Auction.

October 14 at 3 pm: The online bidding will end.  The “Not-So-Silent Auction” and Soiree will begin at 7:00 PM at Church of the Nativity, 8849 Ray Rd. Raleigh, NC 27613.  Any bidders unable to attend the evening can place a proxy bid with the highest bid they are willing to place.

October 14 at 8:15 pm: We will transition to a live auction with an auctioneer for five special items.  

Please sign up if you plan to attend on the Soiree on October 14 at https://bit.ly/CoTNAuctionReg.

We are also seeking individuals to assist with the Soiree and with various tasks involving the auction.  Please click on this link and sign up to be a part of this exciting evening: https://bit.ly/COTNAuctionSignupGenius

If you have any questions, email cotn.auction@gmail.com

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Give, Get, Go! Upgrading the Nave Sound System

Ever wonder what someone is saying at the pulpit while you are sitting in the pew at Nativity? After months of investigating ways to improve the church’s sound system for both the in-person and online Sunday morning experience, we are thrilled to announce that we are beginning an effort to fund the recommended ways to upgrade the church’s sound system.

Our fundraising goal: $11,000. We have already been blessed with $11,000 in funds to support this new sound system, and when combined with other church funds available, we can achieve our goal by raising another $11,000, to match the generous support already provided.

How can you participate? It’s as easy as Give, Get, Go!

GIVE

Our goal is 100% participation from our parishioners, since this upgrade will benefit 100% of our congregation. Every gift helps—no matter the amount. There are several ways to contribute to this effort:

  • To make your donation online, go to the online donations page on our website. (This is the same link as the QR Code on the back of your church bulletin). Please note that you must identify your donation as follows: “Nave Sound System (22724)”.
  • By check: write “Nave Sound System (22724)” on the memo line of your check.
  • By Venmo: write “Nave Sound System (22724)” in the “What’s it for?” field.
  • By PayPal: select “Nave Sound System” in the drop-down box as “the fund you want to donate to”. 

GET

Donate to our silent auction. 100% of the proceeds will go to the new sound system. These can include services, restaurant gift cards, tickets to sporting events, weekend home access, etc. We will collect auction items at the church (on August 15 and September 15) and then create an online auction site for bidding.

GO

After making your donation, please plan to join us on Saturday, October 14 for a fun night of fundraising and fellowship as we conclude the silent auction and celebrate our new sound system with a wine and cheese gathering. 

Our planning committee will need more help to make this effort a smashing success. We will have different volunteer opportunities to help us make this a success, such as (1) collecting donations for the auction, (2) packaging donated items for the auction, (3) contributing food/drinks for the October 14 event, and (4) helping with setup on the day of the event. 

We will announce the kickoff of this effort at both church services on Sunday, June 4. After the 10:30 am service, we will have a Sunset Slush Truck. As we move forward, we will have additional updates and testimonials from members of the congregation who are excited about this project. Please stay tuned for updates as we get closer to the dates referenced above.